While no one can tell you if and when a divorce is right for you, you may have a feeling that something is not right. Some of these feelings may be an indicator that your marriage is over. Relationship experts identified some of the most common – and telling – signs it might be time for a divorce for The Oprah Magazine. Keep reading to find out what they are.
You Don’t Argue
Couples argue. When your relationship is good, you fight for it, and most arguments are healthy and bring resolution. If you can’t be bothered to address concerns and let the relationship fester in silence and avoidance, it may be time to call it quits.
You Argue All the Time
Unhealthy arguments that are about “winning” and assigning blame are also signs that something is wrong, especially when you want to provoke your spouse. If you feel like you are arguing with your partner all the time, and those arguments are about power instead of connection or resolution, you might want to consider a divorce.
You Feel Sick or Stressed About the Relationship
While your brain can lie to you, your body tells the truth. If you have a negative physical reaction to your spouse, you need to listen to what your body is telling you. Whether you feel stressed when your partner enters the room or you feel heavy and sad when you think about staying, it might be time to leave the relationship behind.
If you are afraid of your spouse due to domestic violence or abuse, you need to exit the situation immediately. When you contact our divorce attorney at Camille Borg Law PLLC, we cannot only initiate your divorce but also help you get a protection order to keep you safe throughout the process.
You Don’t Feel Like You Can Be Yourself
When you start censoring yourself around your spouse, it’s a clear sign that something is wrong. You can’t make a marriage work if your spouse doesn’t respect you and your beliefs. If you can’t be your authentic self in your relationship, your marriage may be coming to an end.
Your Relationship Isn’t a Priority
Sometimes, work, children, and life, in general, are demanding, but if you and your spouse aren’t taking the time to be with one another and prioritizing the relationship, your marriage could be heading toward disaster. When you can’t talk about anything but work and kids, and you and your partner are unable to adjust your priorities, it may be time for a split.
You and Your Spouse Aren’t a Team
Little things, like pronouns and phone calls, can be important indicators of a healthy relationship. Do you and your spouse feel like a team? Do you or your spouse use words like ‘I’ and ‘me’ instead of ‘we?’ Is your spouse no longer the person you call in times of crisis or celebration? When your spouse stops being your ‘go-to’ person or you feel lonely in your marriage, it might be time to move on.
Forgiveness Doesn’t Feel Possible
Many couples work through infidelity, but if you can’t forgive and move forward, you shouldn’t force yourself to stay. Does the affair come out every time there’s an argument? Are you holding resentment to the point where you feel physically ill (see above)? Filing for divorce could be the step you must take to heal.
You’re Halfway Out the Door
If you’re constantly questioning whether or not you should stay in the marriage (and reading articles like this one), the answer might be right in front of you.
Divorce may also be the best option if you are already making an exit strategy by moving money into different accounts or finding a new job to support a single-income household. When you’re not ‘all in’ within your marriage, it’s as good as over.
Discuss Your Options Today
If you are seriously considering divorce, it doesn’t hurt to contact an attorney. Attorney Camille R. Borg will walk you through your legal options and be a dedicated and compassionate advocate throughout the entire legal process.
We are here to fight for you and your family. Call us at (469) 646-7763 or contact us online for the trusted support you deserve. Hope. Heal. Thrive with Camille Borg Law PLLC.