Generally, holidays are included in child custody visitation schedules. This could mean parents rotating who has the children on specific holidays or keeping the holiday schedule the same each year. However, Halloween is unique in that it falls on a different day of the week each year, and parents may not consider it an important enough holiday to include on their schedules.
If you and your ex-spouse have decided to co-parent on Halloween, problems could arise, these problems will escalate if you aren’t on the best of terms. Here are 3 solutions for sharing a stress-free Halloween as divorced parents.
1. Remember Halloween Is For the Kids
Depending on how recently you and your former partner divorced, emotions may still be running high. If there’s underlying tension, it’s important to keep in mind that this holiday isn’t for either of you; it’s for your children. If you and your ex begin to squabble, remind yourself of the experience and memories you want your child to have on Halloween, and shift your conversation accordingly.
2. Plan the Event in Advance
To avoid confusion or possible tension, it is essential that you and your ex plan what you would like to do before the event takes place. A proper plan should be constructed, not just the night before, but days or maybe even weeks before.
This plan could include who will:
- pick out the Halloween costume with your child;
- take your child trick-or-treating;
- attend school-related events; and/or
- carve pumpkins.
There is no limit as to what you and your ex should include in the plan. The purpose is merely to make the holiday as smooth as possible.
3. Leave Room for Spontaneity
Even though a plan is a very good idea, you should also leave room for spontaneity. Perhaps your child finds out about a neighborhood that gives out the best candy or they would like to spend the evening having fun with their friends. At the end of the day, kids are free spirits and not even the most carefully crafted schedule can stop them.
Don’t Have a Ghoulish Halloween
If you and your former partner are having trouble with custody, our child custody attorney is here for you. We put the needs of children first and will help you construct a plan that works for everyone involved.
Call our firm today at (469) 646-7763 or contact us online for a legal consultation.